For better or worse, Forums - especially private forums - work under the benign dictatorship model
. There are pros as well as cons to this model, but this is the way its going to be. So be it.
Keeping this in mind, I ensure that I have no reason to have any pangas with Admin of the forum. Here's how you look at it:
You find workarounds to handling the problems with forum (like I found with this moderation re-routing; not a single post of mine gets lost so far and I've been posting fairly frequently). Also on reading the rules lately found that frequent addition of links in posts - especially when you are new - makes the software assume you are doing clandestine marketing and it auomatically takes action against you. Luckily, I have very few links on most posts (mostly none). Just coincidental.
Lastly, we all have important things to do in our real lives. When this forum takes too much of our attention, back off a little, take 3 deep breaths, work on something else for a couple of days and you will realise that this forum and its topics are not such a big deal in our lives anyways. Than come back to it with a reasonably detached attitude.
You will have much more fun with this forum then. At least, I do
!
And don't quit so easily, strongsville.
cheers